If I fail, does it make me a failure

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I failed at the exam and I felt like a total failure.
It was raining heavily and for a moment,
I felt like throwing the answer paper into the rains.

I felt like a total failure

Fearing the worst, I went home only
to find my problem reframed.

Carol Dweck (Growth Mindset) says
Those with fixed mindset, see events as a
validation or confirmation of how good they are

Hence, when they fail,
they feel like a “failure”

Those with growth mindset treat failure
as a challenge to be grown out of
as learning to be implemented
as an action to be taken to improve
as a necessary step for growth

Failure is an event,
it is not an identity
it is not who you are

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how to be successful?

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Are you fed up of reading and listening about success hacks?

There are just too many posts (1 millions tips for this, ultimate guide of 1 gazillion tricks) and videos on how to be successful.

And the reality is this

evan carmichael said “Success is Habits”

Success is not a Pole Vault or a number or a destination

Success is habits: persistent, relentless, massive action, day after day and then some more

Success is not output

Success is input, input and input and them some more

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How do I motivate myself?

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What do you get motivated by?
Results, Goals, Checklist, Money, Title, Position?

And what happens when you get them?
Whats next?

Is it a summit to climb or a bottomless pit of desires which only sinks like a quicksand?

Daniel Pink in his seminal book Drive, highlighted the importance of Intrinsic Motivation. What’s that?

Intrinsic Motivation is when the work itself is the reward –
the act of doing the work itself is the source of fulfillment

Look at how a sculptor approaches his work or
Zen master approaches meditation – its only about practice, its about chiseling the masterpiece , every day

Daniel Pink talks about three important ingredients for delicious dish of fulfillment at work

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how to improve your future

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Do you want to know what you did in your past?
Are you interested in knowing the consequences of your past actions?


Simple: look at your physical, mental, emotional state today

Your past actions have left their imprints on you through habits and consequences

You never really need to know why you did something or what you did

If you want to know about your past actions, the present is the mirror

And what about the Future?
Do You want to know your Future?

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Do you feel that you have no choice?

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Do you feel as if the remote control of your life is someone else’s hands?
Do you feel that you have no choice?

Do these thoughts make you feel powerful?
Off course not!

Then don’t think those thoughts

“Oh, it’s easy for you to say it. You don’t know my situation.
I really don’t have a choice!”

Yes You have !

Yes You Can,
exercise your choice

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Are you a Craftsman or Manufacturer?

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What are you manufacturing today?

“I don’t manufacture” you may say but you do. If you are worried about input (how much effort/time/money I am putting in) vs

output (Is this really worth it? Why am I working? What am I getting out of it?)

then you are a manufacturer

I am all for productivity because productivity by definition means input/output ratio

However, if we are not clear of the “Why” then we might be a digging a hole than manufacturing something

What is needed is for us to be a craftsman

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How are you making Choices?

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How are you navigating through the avalanche of information?

Peter Drucker said

“When the history of this generation will be written, what will be talked about is, the unprecedented change in the human condition”

He added

“People will have to learn to handle manage themselves but, Society is unprepared for this

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How do I stop judging

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You are Wrong! You should be doing it this way. Why can’t you understand?

This is not the way it should be done. When will you realize you are wrong?

Would you like hearing the above?

Every day, every moment?

Off course not!

Then, why do we have these voices in our head?
“Voices? I don’t have them” you might say

Hear closely.

They are very much there, like little green monsters waiting in the dark to pounce.

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How do I achieve my dreams my goals

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Do you want to achieve the best and highest in life?

Do you want sustainable growth in your life?

Follow the +(plus) – (minus) = (equal) philosophy

+/-/= is credited to Frank Shamrock, one of the best UFC champions, who had an amazing record of a four-time defending undefeated champion, before he retired and became a Coach

First, identify an area of your life which you want to improve dramatically.

It could be Money, Relationships, Skill, Profession, your chosen sport or art – it has to be specific

Second, +(plus) means to identify those who are better than you and role model them and learn from them.

I heard this story that P Gopichand (All England Badminton Champion and now Coach to PV Sindhu)

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What do you look for in a person?

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What do you look for in a person
when you want to get into a relationship
which could be business or personal?

Warren Buffet says that the No.1 quality that he seeks in people, he wants to do business with, is

Because Trust is the foundation of Human Experience
Would You agree?

and somewhere Trust is like a SIP – a systematic investment plan

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